Originally Posted by
eventhorizen
God may have 'shown you', but don't speak for everyone. Some of us are capable of taking responsibility for ourselves irrespective of deities, books, etc. Of course some are not.
The 'real you' seems like an incredibly hard thing not only to define these days, but also to find and to express. The social network of even early life means even with closest and deepest friends there is much to drive a certain level of a front or charade.
Ultimately I think the real you only really surfaces in the greater world when both the need to 'act' according to potential social interaction gain diminishes, and when the negative aspects of too much 'acting' become an obvious, powerful damaging force on ones own psyche.
These characteristics are far from random, and ultimately the greatest, most powerful set of characteristics are those we determine to display through analysis and reaction to situations. Even 'self' for a large part is still a tool to get what we want from life, and is often used as such.
Behind every display of self is the 'true' self, and it is still an animal in character whatever it's motivations. Our ability to be this aware creature at all times, yet still to be able to manipulate, direct, think on and influence our own awareness and it's foundations, while still being aware of all of this, is what makes us different to all life we know of. Although language barriers between humans and other creatures may stop us understanding their minds.
We are no doubt handed 'random' attributes at birth, and thrust into fate determined scenarios and enviroments, but we still have a multitude of tools at our disposal, and as human society becomes ever further disjointed from 'nature' as it was before us, so those tools become less tools of the animal kingdom and plant kingdom specifically, and become ever sharper tools for the human social enviroment. We have the ability to lie, steal and cheat our way to whatever our hearts desire, and we have the awareness to be able to choose this path through conscious thought, even if predisposed to varying extents to specific mentalities in life.
Personalities are constructs, but there is little in the universe that is not. Personalities are immensely complex constructs, perhaps the most complex, but that does not inherantly diminish their soundness. When all outward influence is removed, an individual will still exhibit a predisposition towards certain character traits, because we know certain character traits are influenced by genetics, and genetics is something a human cannot escape.
Like all travel through life, I am inclined to believe that the real self evolves with time, given experience of one type or another. It is the characteristics of the 'watcher' behind every psyche that I view as the 'real self', because it is the characteristics of the 'watcher' of the psyche that determines both disposition to circumstance and event and desire, and that also causes the most psychological problems when ignored, disturbed, or denied.
The outward personality is a tool, a mechanism for interaction, and also a shield, and it is rarely displayed as anything other than all of these three things in combination, controlled by the deeper mind, and ultimately the driving force of all human mind, the deeper psyche, the 'watcher'.
The inward personality is what you see when you look in someones eyes. The mouth can lie, but the eyes do not. It is the characteristics of the inward personality that determines an individuals later reaction to the accumulated experience of life, and not the front that is often or almost always displayed.
We are immensely aware, immensely intelligent animals, and this is what lies at the heart of us all, watching over our every move and every experience, whether our minds are flooded by frontal experience and interaction or not. We may all be incredibly similar in the deepest recesses of our minds, or wildly differing. It is a truth in life though that no one else will ever appear in your mind, never share that place with you, and that you and you alone will experience the depths of your own self. There is room for a lot of psychology and philosophy here, in that expression, suffice to say that is because each of us experiences the extent of what it is to be a complete human mind, and we must ultimately share that exact experience with no one.